Not one successful person I know ever got there without ‘failure’ being a part of their journey. The difference between someone who succeeds and someone who doesn’t, is not that one failed and the other didn’t. It’s that one failed and used this as an opportunity to learn and grow and the other failed and let this define who they were. One kept going to find a solution and one gave up.
Failure is a part of life, yet we live in a society that still sees this as a dirty word.
How many of us grew up with the philosophy that failure wasn’t an option?
Or, that there’s no such thing as second place? If you don’t come first, you may as well have come last!
Failure is a part of life
Teaching our children that failure isn’t an option will only ever result in them moving through life with unrealistic expectations because life is a journey that has its peaks and troughs. If a child only ever feels accepted throughout the peaks, how will they learn the tenacity they need to cope with and move beyond the troughs?
If we want our children to aim for the stars, we need them to view failure in a different way. They need to understand that if something doesn’t work the first time, it just means that they have to find another way around it.
We need to teach our children how to fail. To praise them for their effort and to build their self worth. By linking value to success we run the risk of our children linking their worth to first place. However, surely we want our children to have enough confidence to face adversity and move beyond it?
We accept that babies stumble when they are learning to walk
When our babies are first learning to walk, we expect that they will fall over a few times. We celebrate their efforts and build their confidence with words like ‘you are doing great’ or ‘you can do it’. We never once tell them that falling is not an option. In fact it is the opposite. We expect that they will fall, and understand that this is how they learn and develop. So why would this be any different later in life? Why does ‘falling’ all of a sudden become a bad thing when ultimately it is just a process that we are going through to get to the end goal?
We need to celebrate our children’s successes but prepare them for inevitable moments in life when they will ‘fall down’. These failures are nothing more than an opportunity to grow and improve. A child whose self worth remains in tact throughout these times will be the child that has the persistence to keep going and make their dreams happen. Just like we accept that a baby will stumble when learning to walk, we need to accept that as human beings we will stumble in life. It doesn’t mean you won’t achieve your goal.
Walt Disney failed again and again
Walt Disney was fired from his job at The Kansas City Star because his editor thought that he ‘lacked imagination and had no good ideas’. Some of his other businesses also failed before he created ‘Snow White’. He is now viewed as the man who redefined childhood. These failures were just a part of Walt Disney’s journey to success and contributed to the person that he became.
The road to success is often paved with failure and rejection. Those who succeed beyond the norm are usually those who understand this. They accept these moments as a part of their journey and keep going.
If we want our children to be successful, we need to teach them that hard work and determination are the key. Failure is just life’s way of teaching you and making you stronger. By teaching children to embrace failure, we give them an opportunity to flourish and become better versions of themselves.
Failure is just a stepping-stone to success
Throughout childhood our inner belief systems are created. What we consistently experience determines how we view the world and ourselves within it. In order for our children to become the best they can be, we must teach them to believe in themselves no matter what. They need to understand that failure is a part of life and that their worth is defined from within, not by coming first. Success is a culmination of failures, victories and persistence. Let’s stop teaching our children that failure isn’t an option and instead, help them to understand that it is simply a stepping-stone to their wildest dreams.
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