The main architecture of a child’s brain is formed throughout the early years of their life. During this time, their inner wiring is created. This then lays the foundation for their future and affects how they function later in life. Everything a child consistently experiences and hears creates belief systems within them that are then stored in their subconscious mind. These beliefs then become the silent driving force that governs their actions, reactions and choices in adulthood.
A child that is consistently put down or dismissed might create a deep-rooted belief that they are not good enough. This then becomes a part of who they are and will manifest itself in different ways as an adult. They might lack confidence.They might never fulfill their true potential. However, they might even go the other way and become arrogant, in a desperate attempt to fight against this intrinsic feeling of inadequacy. Either way, it will have a profound effect on the path of their life.
On the other hand, if a child is consistently told that they are capable and valued, they will likely create a belief system that they are good enough and their life path will reflect this. They will believe in themselves and have strength of character. This will not only help them to succeed in life, but will also allow them to view ‘failure’ as an opportunity to learn and grow, rather than letting it define who they are and their worth.
We are like a jigsaw that perfectly fits into the world around us
All of the belief systems that are created within us throughout childhood form subconscious little ‘jigsaw pieces’ that then attract their counterparts into our lives. A child that grows up with a jigsaw piece that is ‘not good enough’ may find that in adulthood they attract people who are very critical. This is because these criticisms reinforce the belief that they hold.
Our brain controls who and what we see
Our brain has something called a Reticular Activating System (RAS). This is the part of the brain that decides what information is let into your conscious mind. If you think of the huge amount of things we are surrounded by each day, we couldn’t possibly absorb it all. Our Reticular Activating System filters out the irrelevant information and only lets things through that are appropriate to us.
In a noisy room we will filter out the sounds completely but instantly respond to our name being called. Another example of this is when I was trying for my first baby. My RAS knew that babies were relevant at that time, which is why all I ever seemed to see were babies and pregnant women. It was traumatising!
Our belief systems are also classed as ‘relevant information’ so our RAS will seek opportunities and people that reinforce them. If a person has a belief system that they are not good enough, their RAS will most likely filter people through who are very critical or that lack respect. This is because these people validate their belief. In a room full of people you will be drawn to some and not others. That is your RAS at work, filtering people that are relevant to your life and that reflect your beliefs. It’s quite incredible really.
Affirmations are a powerful tool that can reprogramme your brain
I’ve already stated that whatever we consistently say or do to children becomes their inner beliefs and the subconscious voice that guides them as an adult. By using positive affirmations with children we are creating a ritual that embeds positive self-talk into their life.
A positive affirmation is a statement that is said repeatedly to reaffirm positive beliefs. For example:
- I can do it
- I am good enough
They are a great way of programming the brain and also encouraging children to form positive beliefs for themselves. A positive mind will create positive outcomes. Affirmations help to nurture self-esteem and a positive mindset. By using these affirmations daily, not only do you fill a child’s brain with messages that will serve them well later in life, you also teach them to set their intention for the day and foster a positive ‘can do’ attitude that will help them to be more resilient.
Repeating positive phrases can have an impact on our beliefs
Just a few positive words in a morning can make a huge difference to our day. They also tell our Reticular Activating System what kind of information it needs to filter. Now positive affirmations are not miracle workers and are not going to change your life overnight. However, said consistently over time, they can have an impact on the wiring of the brain and can affect our inner beliefs that ultimately guide the path of our lives.
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Love Stacey x
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